Hey guys, in continuation of our series of relationship tips to help educate readers, we shall be looking at ”How to identify the right man out of many suitors”.
This article is written and sent to us by Rev. Osondu Ahirika. He is a Preacher of the Gospel of Christ, relationship coach, Public Affairs Analyst, Columnist and a playwritter based in Uyo, Akwa Ibom State.
Okay, like i rightly said, it’s a continuation of our series of relationship tips to help educate readers take precautios decisions while taking trips in navigating their journey to fulfiling marrital destinies.
If you missed the first article; Five Mistakes Singles Make AFTER BREAK UP and what to avoid. Do well to read it up.
To begin understanding ”How to identify the right man out of many suitors”, you will have the one that seemingly appear the best, so you ask;
Will He Marry You? Here’s how to know from the Bible
When I was ministering at our congregation’s Youth Conference recently, one of the ladies in the audience asked, “How does a single girl identify the correct man from her many suitors?”
This question, I fully admit, reverberates in the subconscious of every female who is considering marriage and has universal application. I’ll admit that I’ve been asked that same question informally, in private discussions, and in counseling by a few others.
In this post, I’ll attempt to illuminate scriptural revelations that our female readers might use as guidelines for identifying Mr. Right. I also take the risk of asserting that, even if you are not a Christian, the facts are binding and transcendent, far beyond religious bigotry. Let’s get started.
1. OVERWHELMING FIRST MEET:
When you encounter a man who is overpowered, dazed, mesmerized, and stunned by your personality to the point where he is emotionally affected by it. Give that connection a chance. Adam was affected by Eve’s presence (Genesis 2:23).
But it had a greater impact on Jacob. He was overcome with emotion when he first met Rachel (Genesis 29:11).
It will be eye-opening to see that he was unmotivated when he met Rachel’s older sister, Leah. Examine the impact of your first meeting with the man who entices you to consent.
2. LIKE A BAD HABIT, HE DROPS ALL THE OTHERS.
“The Kingdom of Heaven is like a treasure that a man discovered hidden in a field,” Jesus said. In his elation, he concealed it once more and sold everything he owned to fund the purchase of the field (Matthew 13:44). “Go sell everything you have and come follow me,” Jesus advised a prospective disciple. Until now, meeting you has meant shedding social ‘weights’ and distractions in order to make you feel safe. Give him some serious consideration.
3. HE PROUDLY INTRODUCED YOU TO HIS FAMILY
A man who isn’t committed to you will be hesitant to introduce you to his family. He will crush our justifications to postpone a meeting, and if he does, he will grudgingly make an informal introduction.
Keep an eye out for that relaxed body language and demeanor. A man who means business, on the other hand, owns up and rushes to familiarize and integrate you with his family, including parents or guardians, if applicable.
4. HE KNOWS ALL ABOUT YOUR FLAWS BUT DOESN’T MIND
A man who truly wants to marry you will overlook all of your imperfections. You could be a single mother, illiterate, unemployed, a club girl, physically handicapped, or come from a damaged family, among other things. Nothing can stop him.
Hosea married a harlot because marriage is compelled by a force that no one can resist (see Hosea 1:2)
You should consider it extremely gracious if a man meets you on a social media dating site, in strange areas, or for a so-called one-night stand, but if he turns the page and intends to take it to the next level, you should consider it very gracious.
5. HE IGNORES RESERVATIONS FROM FRIENDS AND FAMILY
Any man who tells a girl that he can’t marry her because his mother, or anyone, is against the match, is abinitio, not truly serious or fully devoted.
That is, without a doubt, the cheapest reason to discard a female. A man who is serious about his work is frequently deaf to rumor and will go to any length to keep his woman.
Sampson is a living example of this (see Judges 14:1-4). If you come across such a man, you’ve come to the correct place. Give it your all for him.
A man who is intimidated by your professional or social status will not be a good deal. Some men avoid having a professional woman in any sector and prefer housewives or underemployed women.
A man who helps you develop a business or who supports, promotes, and increases your job chances is wonderful.
That’s what Jacob did for Rachel (Genesis 29:9–10), and Moses did for Zipporah (Genesis 29:11–12). (Exodus 2:16-20). In their duty as shepherdesses, they aided their would-be wives.
As Moses did for Zipporah in Exodus 2:17, he becomes the one battling to defend your profession decision and advocating for your achievement. If your boyfriend throws his weight behind you to help you advance in your job.
7. WHEN HE MAKES COMPROMISES BECAUSE IT’S YOU
A man who goes out of his way to make concessions and defies superstitions for you is actually eager to dance with you for the rest of your life.
That’s why Esther could defy a statute that stipulated the death penalty for defaulters by barging into the King’s chambers without prior appointment or approval. For the sake of his beloved wife, the King broke the law (Esther 4:6-16 and Esther 5:1).
A man who wants to marry you will break all the rules simply to get you on the same page.
8. HE WITHHOLDS NO INFORMATION FROM YOU
A man who wants to marry you will put everything on the line for you. He doesn’t keep any secrets. He has no qualms about confiding in you. Sampson is a good example of this (See Judges 16:17).
Ladies, if you discover a man who is at comfortable with you and confides in you out of genuine affection, don’t betray his trust. He has a good chance of being the one.
9. HE CONSULTS AND AGREES WITH YOU BEFORE UNDERTAKING ANY VENTURE
If the man in your relationship consults and agrees with you before executing or implementing any important tasks, you have a ready husband on your hands. Read Acts 5:1 and notice Annanias and Saphira’s agreement.
10. YOUR COMPANY MEANS THE WORLD TO HIM
If there is one thing that men value and preserve with zeal, it is their alone time. A man who is in love with a girl he wants to marry, on the other hand, craves her company like an addiction.
He doesn’t seem to be fatigued or bored by her presence, yet he doesn’t seem to have enough of her (see Songs of Solomon 7:9-11). Is your man acting like that? You appear to be a suitable match for marriage.
11. NO SACRIFICE FOR YOU LOOKS DIFFICULT
A man in the throes of marrying the girl of his dreams will do anything in his power to make it happen.
Regardless of how demanding or unpleasant the situation is, he accepts it with calm and commitment, obscuring the pain. Jacob first served Laban for seven years and then for another seven years merely to have Rachel as his wife.
According to the Bible, the years were meaningless to him (Genesis 29:20) David went to face Goliath on the spur of a bait that whomever defeated the terrible Phiistine giant would marry the king’s daughter, according to Scripture (see 1 Samuel 17:25-26).
Ladies, be on the lookout for that man who is willing to go to great lengths to ensure that your relationship grows. Give him the val he requires.
12. HE IGNORES TRIBAL/RACIAL/RELIGIOUS SENTIMENTS
When a guy abandons all prejudices, and there are many ethnic, religious, and cultural biases that divide human groups, he is ready to commit to his girlfriend. Look up what the Bible says about Sampson.
“Is there never a woman among the daughters of thy brethren, or among all my people, that thou goest to take a bride of the uncircumcised Philistines?” his father and mother asked. And Samson replied to his father, “Get her for me,” because she is pleasing to him. ‘Judges 14:3,’ says the author of the book of Judges.
Conclusively, I must caution that these rudiments can be imitated in solitary performances. Even if you detect a combination of several of the aforementioned traits in your man’s behaviour, carriage, and demeanor, it is genuine and will very certainly end in glory. If you’re unsure, seek advice from your Pastor or a mentor.